I'm a believer in the power of positive thinking. I try to incorporate it into my day to day decisions and reactions. Sometimes though, life hits us with such incredible force that countering the not so happy with happy thoughts becomes well neigh impossible. I'm a believer in embracing all of the complexities of life. That includes the sad parts.People don't like it when you're hurt and they can't fix it. It's an innately human response. Fix it. Make it better. Make it go away because it makes us uncomfortable. That's a good thing on one level, but there can also be a value in not fixing it right away and instead in diving into it. In other words, it's okay to be sad. It's okay to cry big crocodile tears. Sometimes we all get the 'mean reds.' You don't have to pretend it's okay to make other people feel better, because their happiness is their job. You are not serving your joy if you can't allow yourself the room to be who you are without apology, even when who you are is a little rough around the edges.
So yes, I'm sad this week.
There, I've said it.
I'm feeling a little beat up. I'm hopeful that soon I'll have a sunnier perspective on things, but for now I'm going to be okay with the cloudy skies. For now I'm going to dance with the rain. Sometimes that's what we need.
The joy and the sorrow, the pleasure and the pain, the light and the darkness...in the Tao it is all the same.
Love
Madgey Golightly
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Here is my quote, you've seen it before, but it explains why I end each note the same:
"Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day." ~ Anonymous (I love her work!)
Even if the day is craptastic, or nothing goes right, or I feel pain or sadness, I know that there is a something good in each day. I used to try to seek it out, but often it comes to me unexpectedly. But since I made that shift quite decidedly a few years ago, I have found that it changes my perspective in a manner that no other thing can. It is not about being all pollyannaish. It is not about finding a silver lining where sometimes none exists. It is just a reminder that the 'something goods' are always there, even if it is just a person saying hello, or the fact that the rain feeds my flowers, or a stolen kiss with my husband. It doesn't have to be much. But there is always 'something good'.
I hope you know that I am thinking of you. I hope it is okay for me to say a little prayer for you.
I hope you find your 'something good' today!
And that is why instead of saying "have a nice day" I would rather say....Enjoy the day!
Erin
Erin
There is lots of good in every day and I am fully aware of my many blessings, but I'm embracing the not so good today. It's okay to do that, in fact I think it's healthy. We don't have to look for the silver lining when we know it's there, we can just let ourselves sit with our sorrow and let it wash over us. It's an alchemy of sorts.
This is a very Tao thing, to accept the joy and the pain and to know that they are merely aspects of the totality of life.
"Laughing and crying, you know it's the same release." Joni Mitchell
Thank you for your good thoughts, I appreciate them.
Love
Madge
hnag in there, what goes down has to come up, i know from personal experience!! love the BAT theme. *hearts*
Thanks Kathy! I've lived long enough to know that every rain storm passes eventually. They're actually crows, but I do like bats a lot!
Love
Madge
sending hugs, and yes I certainly believe one should not pretend just to make others feel comfortable and at the expense of self. I feel it's healther to accept one doesn't feel great and then work on it rather than to put all one's energy into pretending one is doing great.
When I first came to america I really struggled with the "hi how ya doin" greeting and this strange attitude about being jolly all the time. My experience with those who are happy ALL the time (through my work with crisis counseling and life experience) is they ain't. OFten they can't work out the down time because they somehow feel they can't acknowledge it.
I like the Tao saying.
love Corrine who is usually a jolly positive sort too but also embraces the yin and yang of life.
Big hugs Madge....big hugs. By the way, I love the sound of "for now I am going to dance with the rain"...The resonance of the words are amplified to my ears.
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